As mentioned in the turmeric post, this spice is especially good for the liver as it protects it, tones it, and helps it eliminate toxins. It also supports the liver in fat metabolism and nutrient absorption.
Now let’s connect turmeric with some eating psychology, shall we?
In the ideal world we would be able to express what we feel right away, and thus be in a constant state of motion liberating ourselves moment to moment saying whatever we feel, being fresh and spontaneous human beings, not keeping anything in, and not resenting anything or anyone. But of course we can’t always express how we feel because it’s either not socially acceptable or simply because we don’t have that type of extroverted personality. So because it’s not the ideal world, we need to learn how to DEAL with those repressed emotions that so easily become anger.
Not expressing emotions, or even worse, getting attached to actually liking keeping things inside (so as to chew on the anger and play the same stories on repeat in our heads, thriving from being a victim) is a trap and a very very dangerous one.
As Traditional Chinese Medicine has been stating for over five thousand years, every organ is connected to an element and to an emotion. The 5 organs in the body produce 5 kinds of essential ki (or energies) which bring forth 5 different emotions: joy, anger, grief, worry, and fear. According to the Five-Element Theory, anger is associated to the liver which is said to represent resentment, frustration, and irritability. The relationship between an organ and its corresponding emotion is always reciprocal, meaning that if the liver for instance, is functioning well, and its energy is flowing smoothly throughout the body, the emotional state will be balanced, happy, and relaxed; emotions will be freely expressed and communicated. However, if the liver is dealing with an overload of caffeine, alcohol, sugar, food additives, excessive intake of Omega 6 essential fatty acids, as well as dealing with too many toxins from pesticides, herbicides, synthetic chemical fertilizers, and medications, it will create a stagnation of energy in this organ, which over a period of time can lead to emotional states of constant low level anger, depression, and resentment.
Anger, and all the emotions that come with it (resentment, frustration, etc) affect the liver and disrupt the balanced flow of energy in the body. Remember that everything is connected, so a taxed liver will produce feelings of tightness in the chest, tension in the stomach, irritability, anger, headaches, and the propensity to lose one’s temper. A taxed liver also produces jaundice, bad breath, rashes, itchy skin, brown spots on the skin, and flushed skin.
Other symptoms of an overly taxed liver include, but are not limited to:
- Depression, moodiness, melancholy, unhappiness, and a general tense feeling
- Sensation of a lump in the throat with trouble swallowing
- Nausea, vomiting, reduced appetite, sour reflux, a sensation of the stomach churning
- Irregular elimination: alternating constipation and diarrhea,
- Irregular menstruation, dysmenorrhea, premenstrual breast tenderness, PMS
- Recurrent headaches
- Sensitivity to chemicals and food additives
- Inability to lose weight
So now you know about this correlation between anger and the liver, but how to approach this? First, of course it will help to eliminate all stimulants and chemicals mentioned above (sugar, alcohol, caffeine, etc). Second, having turmeric (liver toner) by making the golden milk recipe will also help a lot 🙂 , and last but certainly not least, it is SO important to explore (any time we do get angry), what that anger is really all about and what it is trying to tell us from an emotional, spiritual and psychological standpoint.
Underneath anger most times is sadness; however, because we are so scared of our own vulnerability and being sad, we tend to automatically switch the sadness into anger as a defense mechanism to protect ourselves, and get ready to attack. All of a sudden we are mad at the bitchy friend or at the cheating boyfriend, when truly inside there’s a part of us that’s been really torn apart and smashed to pieces and really needs our care, love, and attention.
The real problem with getting angry when in reality we’re just sad, comes when the anger turns around and goes against ourselves. Think about it: when you’re angry you get super revved up, your blood starts boiling, and you get manic, but in doing so you’re not hurting anyone, except yourself. Rage is the most damaging to the person feeling it. Yes, we may say awful things or try to get revenge, but really our own anger ends up eating at us and hurting us in a way that no one else can hurt us.
Other times we get angry at people or situations because of our inability to have been able to stand up for ourselves at a time where we actually DID need to defend and stand up for how we felt. Maybe we didn’t express our truth at the time that it needed to be expressed, and thus anger came as a result of the frustration for not having been able to fully express ourselves.
When you feel anger arising in you:
- Forgive yourself for simply feeling that way and for not having had the time and/or resources to deal with the situation that triggered the anger in the first place.
- Identify what’s beneath the anger. Is it sadness? You didn’t express your truth at a time you needed to?
- Go deeper. Now try to look and see how you really feel about the situation/person that made you angry. Keep asking: HOW do I feel about this particular situation/ person?
- Acknowledge your feelings and create space for them. Once you know HOW you really feel about it, acknowledge and create space for your feelings inside by repeating the mantra: “these are my feelings and I am entitled to them.”Don’t judge, just let them be there with you. (Remember that before you get rid of anything you first have to own it.)
- Let go . Yay! Once you’ve really made your anger a conscious emotion, you can let it go. Express it, show it, or simply just let it slip out, just like that: breathe in LET, exhale GO. Throw it out the window; you don’t need it anymore. Shoot it out so that you can create more space inside for the light to come in through the cracks.
So always ask, and keep asking yourself: How do I feel about this? What is my point of view on this matter/subject/person/situation? Do I like this? Do I hate it? etc.. OWN your point of view. The more you cultivate your point of view about everything, the more you will be able to express your truth, and the less you will find yourself in situations where you’ll get angry because you went against yourself.
That’s what ComoComo is all about: asking the HOW’s in life.
A few more tips to finish:
- Develop a point of view on anything and everything, and once you have it, let it go, express it, and be free with it.
- Allow yourself the time and space to digest situations and people. You won’t necessarily know how you feel about certain things right away, so just let things sit and marinade inside.
- We all have some good and some bad, so let’s just try to feed the good and not torture ourselves or feel guilty with our anger.
Let’s be clear about the fact that things will never be perfect, and situations and people will always trigger us, but it is our responsibility to keep creating space inside us for all of it. Let’s create space for the anger, the resentment, the sadness, and the fear because the more space we create for all of that, the more space we will be creating for the joy, the happiness, and the lightness. Create space so that you can keep filling your body and soul with more golden light.
We are all broken, that’s how the light gets in — Ernest Hemingway